To the Single Girl Quarantine

Now you all know, as a fabulous Thirty year old single woman, some of my blogs JUST HAVE to highlight the single life! So here we go.

I have really had time to sit and think in this here quarantine…but haven’t we all! I’ve been thinking about my choices that lead me to this point in life. What I may have done differently, things I could have been doing to get the most out of this single life.

One thing I can say for sure is that this time has given me so much CLARITY!

As a single woman, I’ve always been judged about my standards, too high or too low…or not descriptive enough. If you are single, you know what I mean. Well here is the thing that I settled on, if it doesn’t feel right, don’t pursue it and don’t feel bad.

There’s a difference between something not feeling right, being picky and maybe just not being ready to date. Also, there’s nothing wrong with any of these three! I have realized that in my time being single, I had prioritized other things and a relationship had not been one of them. I mean if we are being completely honest, I loved the feeling of personal success and being able to provide for myself, being on my own time…ALL OF IT. Yes, I’m one of the girls who can go into a restaurant and happily have a meal by myself. Yes, I’ll hop in my car and take long rides with just God, me and my music! Those are the things I love! So although I did want to date, it never really bothered me being alone!

I didn’t want to be married early, have kids early…I didn’t want any of that…FOR ME… and I had slowly began to realize that, it is perfectly okay and normal to prioritize my life, exactly how I want. The time I have spent figuring myself out has is something that I wouldn’t dare trade!

But here is what I noticed…and what I’m working on

• · I compared myself and I let others compare me. There was this sense that I have missed something, not recognizing what I have gained. So I’m cherishing what I’ve done…because I did THAT.

• · I put an extreme amount of focus on doing for others. So I’m making time to go above and beyond, saying yes to things that I enjoy.

• · I didn’t have a focus for dating. So now I’m being more intentional about the options out there. Being open to date and not being so quick to say no. LOL

The thing about being single is that everyone’s journey is different. Some may not relate to mine and that is okay. What you should know is that you are a treasure. Christ calls us valued, even higher than the most expensive gem! So keep that in mind when you date. While you are in quarantine or maybe you are trying to ease yourself back into society…focus on you, find out what you like, find out the areas of you that could use some growth, reevaluate your friendships and relationships, do the things you have been putting off…AND DO THEM FOR YOU!

This journey requires continuous growth. A lot of that growth is done alone. So buckle in and be ready to put in the work. Create a community of support and accountability. Most of all, always remember, you are never really alone.